Friends for 30 years. All Different, All Strong… All In.
It’s only been three months and I am back in San Diego. This was not a planned trip but one that was necessitated by the passing of one of the many father figures who has made their mark on my life over the years. In a world where men seem to be villanized most of the time its great to come home to honor a man whose life is marked with hard work and love of family. It makes you look around at all the people in your life and take notice of the good. I sometimes have a hard time doing this, noticing the good. The bad and the hard are much easier to focus on. Living in fear of the “What if’s” is much easier than taking the time to look around and be thankful for what is.
How sad is this realization? Why does it take such effort to be thankful? Why is it easier to take a section of people in our society and view all of them as bad because a few have made a huge mess of things? When I take a step back and I begin to focus on the individual relationships in my life I am overwhelmed by how much the good outweighs the bad and yet the bad still stands there like a neon sign.
As I write this another father figure of mine is in ICU with double pneumonia and a weak heart. He and his wife took me in when I moved back to Oregon at 24. I lived with them while I finished up college. He helped me get a job as well as helped me purchase and fix up a car. Mr. Wonderful and I had our rehearsal dinner for our wedding in their home and they were at the hospital when both our kids were born. I am not their daughter by blood but they have loved me as one of their own. This is good. This is love. This is life.
My Other Parents…
I don’t know what is happening in your life today. But in the midst of it all set aside some time to focus on the good. Take stock of your relationships and note of how much the healthy ones outweigh the toxic ones. Let go of all the emotion and anxiety that threaten your sanity and keep you from seeing the beauty all around you. There are some amazing people in this world. People who have laid down seasons of their life to make your life better. Don’t forget this, don’t forget to notice the good.
Have a Beautiful Day My Friends!
Tiffany
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Thanks girlfriend a good reminder
Your welcome, I miss you.♥
Thank you for this and for being with me this weekend. It means the world to me. ❤️
Your welcome, my friend. Showing up. It’s what we do. I love you.
Great post!
Thank you, Denise
This is needed to be said over and over again:) Thank you for putting a little seed in my head to stop and say “thank you”. I love this post, but am so so sorry to hear that your “other Dad”:) is not well. I’m glad i got to meet him even if it was over a busy dinner with dancers:)
Have a beautiful weekend.
Thank you Miss Lisa. He’s still sedated but doing better. Thank you for the inspiration and reminder that my art and creativity come from words and thank you for being my friend.❤️
You are blessing everyone with live!! It is the best!!
You are blessing everyone with love….that is the best!!
Thank you Mama Judy for always encouraging me. I ❤️ You!!